Don't be like the rest of 'em, darling.

"She closed the door, she hides behind the face nobody knows, she feels her skin touch the floor. She wants to fight, her eyes are tired, nobody's on her side. She wants to feel like she did before."

We all know how awfully tiring it is to try to fit in. Sometimes it just clicks and it all falls into place within seconds and sometimes, it takes a lot longer to get there but there are instances though, when you try and try and try but it never ever sticks. Before, I used to invent multiple personas just to fit into different groups (FOMO in short) and quite frankly, it's exhausting and not to mention, pointless. If your group of "friends" don't want to hang out with you for who you are, then are they still your friends? It was when I was in college that I found the power in silence - attending lectures alone allows better focus and attention, eating bentos alone gives me extra time to indulge in j variety shows, taking extra long journey home along on the subway means more time to catch up on novels and whatnots. I don't know 'bout you, but there's something really liberating about doing things alone (Sidetrack: If you haven't attempted watching movie alone, do it yo. It's so goooood)

It is really true though, that you attract your own tribe. Forget about dressing to impress, forget about being pressured to do something you don't feel comfortable with and forget about starting dramatic shiz up. People will find their way towards you eventually, one way or another as long as you stay true to yourself and just, be you. It's really that simple. There's simply no point in trying to please everyone. You don't like me? Alrighty, I mean come on not everyone's going to like me for who I am but that doesn't mean 1) I can be obnoxiously mean to them, 2) I have to feel the same animosity towards them and 3) I should change me. Let's face it, even I don't like everyone I meet, so there's that. Bottom line: You can totally still be civil and nice to someone you don't vibe with! Don't be that bitch who hates on others simply because you're jealous/bitter of what they possess. Because really, how can you judge and hate on someone you barely know simply basing it off what you see at a glance? Take your time to meet new people, take some time to connect with the old. Stop wanting to fit somewhere, stop trying so hard to want to belong anywhere for when you stop searching, you know you're home.

xoxo,

Wendy